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My point is that in the moments he’s with you, he probably does mean it.
When you put it to him like that, you’re not blaming him, you’re just telling him how you feel and asking for an explanation you can understand.
He won’t get defensive if you put it in these terms.
Some things to consider: Personally, in a relationship, if someone doesn’t do what I expect them to do, I usually forgive them… I would say it should be as simple as, “OK, you’re doing this and it makes me feel this way (whatever it is you feel) and it makes me think this…
Can you give me a reason that would help me understand why this keeps happening? I would say go for understanding, don’t go for resolution.
Generally speaking, I think it’s destructive in a relationship to think about things in terms of what someone is doing right or wrong (whether it’s you or the guy you’re with).