Dating too soon after relationship
I’m 36 years old, and ready to get married and have a family.
I want to start dating again, but my sister says it’s too soon.
We can't get inside someone else's heart or mind to know whether they are ready to get into a new relationship; whether they have shed all the tears they needed to, or gotten back a sense of self.
What is important to know for anyone getting into a new relationship following a long term relationship is that, if you are not done grieving, the new person or situation may serve as a temporary distraction, but the anger, sadness, fear or hurt you need to feel will not go away until it is fully expressed.
Although men and women differ greatly on how they deal with their emotions, it is generally true that men move into new relationships sooner than women do.
But, regardless of gender or sexual orientation, what I have seen in my work is that it's often the leaver who gets into a new relationship before the leavee does.
Still, free free to share your experience – you might find clarity and insight as you write!